Expect dating single father
If you meet a guy you like and he has kids, here are some things to consider:1. Ideally, his parenting style will mesh with your beliefs about how children should be raised. Most of his time is devoted to his kids — and you must respect that.
The number of kids he has will affect your relationship BIG TIME. Once you meet a divorced dad’s kids, pay attention to their behavior. Some kids will be slow to warm up to you, and even the sweetest kids have bad days and can be bratty or cranky at times, but beware of children who disrespect you or their father, or who show consistent behavioral problems. The more parenting time a divorced dad has, the more his children will influence your relationship. Unless the divorced dad is a widow, all children come with a mom.
However, don’t be too quick to toss out that cute dad’s phone number.
Each divorced dad is different, and you may find one you really connect with.
It means only introducing your children to girlfriends when you're confident that your relationship is on its way to long-term or permanent status — and, if you're cordial, giving your ex a heads-up.
Dating a divorced dad has many unique challenges that you won’t face with childless men.
A single father's love life is a balancing act, with a lot of time spent mediating from the middle, Brott said.
A common mistake men make is to neglect to have regular conversations with the new girlfriend to explain why he makes choices favoring the children. While kids remain the priority, don't ignore the needs of the relationship, Fisher said.
They may just be hurt and angry that their parents' relationship is over, in which case they may need counseling, she said.
Or they may notice that dad's new girlfriend becomes nasty as soon as he leaves the room, in which case dad might do well to take their concerns seriously.